Where to Leave your Hand Written Love Notes:

Adding the element of surprise to your love note is always special to the receiver.
Here are some really creative suggestions about where you can leave your handwritten love note:
In their shoes
In their lunch bag everyday
Under their pillow
Under their pillowWhen they travel just insert one into their luggage
In their laptop bag at night to be discovered first thing in the morning at work
For the reader -- in their bookmarked page
On their car windshield/wipers
Use the Windows Paint program to write your love notes, and then save them on their computer as the 'wallpaper'
In their shirt pocket before they leave for work
On the edge of the Jacuzzi, hot tub or sauna
On the bathroom mirror in lipstick, or the steam of their shower
Using washable markers -- everywhere
Inside their class notebook on the page after the last page written on
On the driver’s seat of their car
In their sandwich, wrapped in plastic
Taped to the back window of the car
In their wallet
On their steering wheel
Planted throughout the bedroom to be found while getting ready for work
In their pants pockets
Dictated on their voicemailIn the mailbox
Pinned on a teddy bear before they leave for work.
In their gym locker
Written in soap on the mirrorBuried in the sugar bowl...to enjoy with their coffee

Add fun to Your Relationship with Romantic NickNames!!

How to choose a sexy fun romantic nickname for your partnerYou can sure enhance your love life by adopting a nickname special only to your loved one! If you think that doing this is kind of wishy-washy, think again! A nickname mixes in some romantic spice into your love life.A special name such as "Sweetheart" or "Cutie” can lighten up your loved one’s face and send a rush of sexy butterflies to their stomach! Why not try it and see for yourself?Why bother with a nickname at all? Nicknames do the trick because:They pay a loving compliment when you pick the right one for your partner.They conjure up thoughts of love and romance.They make your loved one smile.A nickname picked out only for your partner will cause them to feel special.They are playful and set a fun mood.Read from the list below and see if you can find a nickname that you would think fits your loved one’s personality and character. Try using it just once and then see how your loved one responds. If they like the nickname, adopt it as your own. The nickname is for your ears only!Angel
Babe
Baby
Beauty
Beautiful
Buttercup
Cupcake
CutieDarling
DearDoll
Dumpling
Handsome
HulkHun (short for Hunny)
HunnyHunny
BunnGorgeous
Kitten
Love
Lovely
Lulu
My Little Cutie
My Love
My Sweet boo
Brown Eyed Girl (or blue or green, etc.)
PeanutPookie
Princess
Pumpkin
Rosey
Sexy
kitten
muffin
SmileySugar
Sunshine
Superman
Sweet Cheeks
Sweet Pea
Sweety
Sweetheart
Tarzan
Twinkle
Toes
I guess you get the idea..Try coming up with a few original nicknames of your own and then get to work -- time to start enhancing your love life with a new nickname to turn him or her on!
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Kissing Advice and Tips

Learn the true art of kissing for success, including french kissing techniques, tips and advice for the ultimate kissWhat is romance without a kiss?When wishing for romance, your kisses had better be good to make a favorable impression. It may not be fair, but some will judge you on your first kiss as to whether or not they will want to see you again. In other words, there needs to be good chemistry when kissing.A good kiss delivers a powerful impact! If you're a great kisser, you're going to turn your date on and you will have a definite edge.What distinguishes a good kisser from the kisser we all want to forget? The key is to be soft and gentle and follow their lead. Here are some good romantic kissing tips to enhance your love life:STEP ONEBe careful not to startle - watch and wait for the signal to proceedAvoid the ‘ambush’ kiss (although these can be exciting as your relationship progresses.)Look deeply into your partner’s eyes. This will send the message that you like them and want to be closer to them. Look for their signals as well. Look for a warm, kind smile (even a slight smile is good; it doesn’t have to be BIG.)Pay attention to the look on your loved one’s face. This will indicate where they want to go with this kiss.STEP TWOLook for good balance. As you move closer to that magical kiss, you don’t want to be leaning too forward awkwardly to get there.As you move closer you are sending signals. You want your body to be in a comfortable position during the kiss, so you can enjoy every moment of it.Go for a light touch just before the kiss. While a hand lightly on the face is a definite signal of intimacy, holding hands combined with eye contact and a warm look can indicate the beginning of a great kiss to come.Make sure you are aligned correctly at this point. This means not only getting your lips on track with theirs, but getting the head tilted correctly as well.Tilt your head slightly to one side first. Your partner will likely react and tilt the other way. This is a mutual sign that the kiss will be very welcomed.STEP THREERelax your lips, close your eyes.Move in slowly. During step number two you made sure the two of you were aligned correctly, now you can close your eyes as you’re just about to make contact.Relax your lips, not tightly pressed together. Give your partner the pleasant experience of feeling your lips softly against theirs.Your lips should be recently moistened, but not wet.STEP FOURRelax your lips, tilt your head and breathe evenly.Moving in, you can part your lips slightly just before contact. Keep your lips relaxed, your tongue in your mouth.Keep your head tilted so both of you can still breathe comfortably on contact and as the perfect kiss is held...SAVOR every moment ... be slow, gentle, easy.STEP FIVEKeep it sweet, not too long and not too wet.Don’t pull away too quickly or make any quick movements. Savor. Savor. Savor. Feel the power and romance of the kiss.Enjoy the moment!STEP SIXTake your time and don’t rush. Make eye contact, nonverbal and verbal messages.To end, pull away slowly and make eye contact again. Show a satisfied, warm smile to reinforce how you feel.Enjoy the closeness, relax, and finish the kiss with a warm embrace.A few, thoughtful words, such as, “That was nice,” can be whispered. Try to reinforce how you felt about your kiss with positive words. Your partner will appreciate this and this can break the ice a little.Now that you have mastered the romance of a kiss....you are well on your way to learn even more about how to enhance your romance life!THE ROMANCE AND SCIENCE OF KISSINGWhat is that feeling people get from a good kiss that's so hard to explain? How does kissing come into play when being romantic?Women often compare a good kiss to "melting butter" and like being "hit by a wave," according to a recent survey. Men often describe it as similar to "vibrations at a concert" or a "three pointer at the buzzer to win the NCAA basketball tournament," according to the same survey.Experts have proven there is a lot of physiology behind the warm and fuzzy feelings that come from a good kiss.Feelings of romantic love, and kissing, stimulate the same type of brain activity as many sports, such as: parachuting, bungee jumping and distance running, for example. These same types of activities cause the brain to experience a surge in norepinephrine, dopamine and phenylethylamine (or just PEA to some.) These neurotransmitters attach to pleasure receptors in the brain and create feelings of euphoria, giddiness, elation and such.So, next time you feel romantic and want to show your love to someone special, go for that wonderful kiss -- it will definitely leave a lasting impression!A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous. ~ Ingrid Bergman

Tips for Keeping Women's Attention

If you’re dealing with an attractive woman,then you must remember that you’re not the firstguy who has ever been interested in her.In fact, she’s probably approached all the timeby guys, and she probably has a lot of experiencewith guys who want to “get involved” with her.This is one of those funny situations thatworks in kind of a backwards way (not unlike manyother aspects of male/female relationships,actually).If you meet an attractive girl, you can bepretty sure of a few things:1) She gets approached by men, one way or another,all the damn time.2) 99% of the men that she meets and dates wind upfollowing her around like puppies… either fromthe beginning or eventually.3) When a guy acts “too nice - too soon”, she seesthis as a sign of neediness and weakness, andshe’s repelled by it.I realize that this is going to sound like somekind of bizarre Zen self-help B.S., but sometimesyou have to push things away from you gently inorder to bring them to you.And beautiful women fall into this category.At my last couple of Double Your Dating LIVE!Seminars, I asked a simple question:“How do you make someone want something?”Have you ever thought about that concept?Why is it that people WANT things in the firstplace, and how can you actually MAKE someone wantsomething?When you think about the things that YOU want,and then ask yourself WHY you want those things,you’ll begin to realize why this is such aprofound question.Why is it that Coke has dominated the colamarket when we all know that Pepsi wins the tastetests?Why is it that people in Los Angeles buy somany four-wheel drive SUVs?Why is it that some nightclubs keep peopleoutside in line for hours when there’s plenty ofroom inside the club?Well, I obviously can’t go into an in-depthexplanation of why these things are so, but Ithink it’s obvious that:1) Most of the things that people “want” aren’tfor the most logical reasons.2) We humans only “want what we don’t have”… andonce we get what we want, we quickly get bored.3) Even knowing that something is readilyavailable to us makes us lose interest.So why such a long explanation?Why not just tell you when to call her, what tosay, and what tone to use?Because even if you know the exact right wordsto say, and the exact right time to say them, thewoman you’re talking to will still be able to pickup what you’re REALLY thinking if you don’tunderstand how and why women become attracted tomen.Here are a few ways to make a person wantsomething:1) Create a challenge.2) Give her a little, then lean back.3) Give her the gift of missing you.4) Be unpredictable.When you create a challenge, you really ENGAGEa woman’s mind and emotions.Women don’t feel ATTRACTION for men that arepush-over Wuss Bags. Women feel ATTRACTION for menwho are a CHALLENGE.When you give a woman a little bit, then leanback, then you set up a “Hey, I want more of that”situation.If you just keep pouring on the attention andgiving her everything she wants, you’ll becomeuninteresting.When you give a woman the “Gift of missingyou”, you realize that for women, thinking about,missing, and anticipating the next time is ofteneven more powerful than the actual EXPERIENCE of“the next time”.Men often get insecure, and feel that they haveto call and keep an eye on a woman all the time.This is a huge mistake. It says all the wrongthings.When you’re UNPREDICTABLE, you do somethingthat is almost MAGIC… when a man understands howto make a woman feel ATTRACTION, then he doesn’tdo things that are PREDICTABLE, women will tend tothink about him ALL THE TIME.Things that are predictable don’t require muchthought. They’re uninteresting and boring.Things that are UNPREDICTABLE, on the otherhand, require a LOT of thought. Unpredictablethings are FASCINATING to people… especiallywomen.What makes a movie lame?Predictability.What makes a movie great?A well-written story that ISN’T predictable.Predictability and BORING-NESS are the enemiesof ATTRACTION.Here are a few thoughts on the questions youasked:1) If you call her the next day, be cool about it.Don’t try to be too “suave”, and don’t try to setup another date immediately. Call and say, “Hey,what’s up?” Make a little small talk, then hangup. Lean back, and she’ll be thinking about youfor the next several days (if you didn’t act likea dumb-ass the night before, that is).2) If you email, keep it light as well. In thisday and age, I find it natural to email or call.3) Your TONE should be cool, calm, laid back,busy, and upbeat. Never complain about things,whine, or act like you’re in a bad mood and needattention.4) Be very cool about this. Don’t act like youmight want to get married within 90 days, or likeyou’ve met the woman of your dreams. Give her somespace, and the gift of missing you.5) For the first 10 dates or so, don’t see hermore than once or twice a week. Stay busy withyour life, and always have things going on.6) Until you decide that you really like aparticular woman and want to “settle down” withher, or have a long-term relationship, don’t focustoo much energy on the relationship. If you’redating other women, don’t stop. When you focus allof your energy and time on a woman that you’vejust met, it often creeps them out and makes themrun.

Creative Ideas For Valentines Day

Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, a day that each year puts fear into the hearts of men. Every year, you promise yourself that next year; you are going to do something different. If you still do not have any creative ideas for a special surprise, do not panic. Here are some Valentine’s Day gift ideas (many inexpensive) that are sure to please your love on that special day.
Balloon Surprise
This one will require handwritten notes to your Valentine. Phrases like “I love you”, “Thanks for being you”, or “You mean more to me than anything” are good as well as sayings that have special meaning only to the two of you. You can write short memories of fun things you did together, a memorable vacation or a special moment you shared, like the birth of a child. Once you get the notes written, cut them into small sections. Make sure each note is small enough to be folded and placed in a balloon. You can purchase a small helium tank and balloons at most party stores. Take a balloon, insert a note into it, and then blow it up. When your Valentine comes home, have her pop each balloon to read your message of love.
Recreate Your First Date
Unless it was just a total disaster, your first date probably holds a lot of sentimental value for both you and your loved one. What better Valentine’s Day surprise could there be than to recreate the first date, a time when you first fell in love? Go to the same restaurant, rent the first movie you watched together, take her dancing to the same bar - whatever you did on that first date, make it happen again. Even if it was a disaster, you can recreate it, making it better the second time.
Getaway Trip
This one will require more money and a little preparation, but is sure to be great fun for both of you. Plan a secret weekend vacation. If you have kids, arrange for babysitters without letting your love know about it. Book the airline tickets, make the hotel reservations and when Friday rolls around, surprise her by having her bags packed, ready to go. Las Vegas is a great getaway destination. You can even renew your vows in a fun setting, like wedding chapel that has an Elvis impersonator do the ceremony. If you cannot afford a big trip, book a weekend at a bed and breakfast within driving distance. A getaway involving just the two of you will be fun no matter where you go.
Special Songs
Here is an inexpensive way to show her that you remember those special love songs. Make a compact disc of songs that have special memories for you and your Valentine. You can do this on your computer using iTunes or Windows Media Player. If you do not have the songs on a compact disc already, you can even download them from places like Amazon-com, Buy-com or iTunes for less than a dollar each. Each time she hears this CD, she will think of you!
Romance Scavenger Hunt
Buy small presents like a bag of candy kisses, a bottle of her favorite perfume or a single rose. Then create a few presents of your own such as a handwritten poem, a compact disc of special songs, or a handmade Valentine’s Day card. Write clues that will be attached to each present, telling her where the next present can be found. Make the last present something that will last a while like a picnic dinner, a bottle of champagne hidden close to the fireplace or lingerie in the bedroom.
Chocolate Fun
If you both love chocolate, this can be a very fun and sexy idea. Make a batch of chocolate pudding and feed it to each other sitting by the fireplace. You may want to place a blanket or something on the floor in case it turns into a playful food fight. To spice it up, remove one article of clothing each time you feed your loved one and ask her to do the same. This can even lead to a romantic shower for two, so have candles ready in the bathroom.
As you can see from these ideas, Valentine’s Day does not need to be anything extravagant. It just takes a little effort and creativity on your part and you can turn this Valentine’s Day into one that your special someone will remember forever!

Can Friendship Turn To Romance?

It is important to be really systematic for turning friendship into romance. Friendship and romance are inseparable in many cases, but it is not universally true for all. Many people are enjoying their romantic life that they started with friendship a long back. On the other hand, the diametrically opposite situation may happen to your life also…you can lose your intimate friend in the mire of romance. It is the mystery of psychology that propels human beings to behave like this. But, we should always follow what our mind directs us to do. If you feel to make a romantic relationship with your friend, do not hesitate to march forward until you get him/her.
Just think of the situation – you have a friend, who understands you well, who knows you and would stand beside you in all situations; he/she is certainly the perfect match for your romantic life. The most important thing is that your have to be pragmatic enough to make her/him understand the situation, otherwise everything will be lost in the wave of time.
Romancing close friends can be risky – they may take the relationship as granted at the beginning…and you may have to face a false situation. If you are honest about your aims and objectives, do not hesitate! You know her well right from her earlier days and vice versa…and it is assumed that the relationship that exists between you can never be altered even if the sky comes down to the earth. A true friend can bring success, happiness and all the treasures in life. Honesty will pay for you and if you are honest to bring your relationship to romance, none has the power to stop that.
Most of the people assume lot of things at the beginning of any Friendship . They start daydreaming and finish as a loser. It should be kept in mind that mere assuming would not pay you until you have an utmost desire to fulfill your demand. If you are too crazy to make a romantic relationship with your close friend…take time and wait for the perfect time to tell her. You would have to change certain things of you. Your lip service can play a big role to canalize your friendship to romance. Tell expressively and persuasively that you love her from your heart. If she does not want to change the equation of the relationship immediately, do not be worried; keep on persuading her and you would get the result in no time. In such cases faith and honesty work a lot.
It is necessary to bring certain changes within you; otherwise it would be too tough for you to transfer your relationship from Friendship to romance. First of all, get a different look – always dress elegantly and spray perfume frequently, so that she can observe some changes in you. Be realistic and create an opportunity for her to come closure to you. Suppose, both of you are in a stroll, what you need to do is that place your palm near her waist and smoothly start rubbing until she gets aroused sexually. Wait for the perfect time - hold her hand and kiss. If she agrees with your gesture, carry on kissing in different places including lip, breast and more. Try to be direct with her and make no hesitation in asking for dating. Say, whatever you have at the earliest, because nobody knows what may happen in the days to come. Still, you need to be practical enough to judge the perfect time and place and of course, of the mental state of your beloved. Be true to your heart and do not fear from rejection. Keep a positive outlook and you can earn your desired soul by applying the tried and tested law.
Once she shows any positive sign of continuing romance, try to make it doubly sure by giving her romantic gifts and sumptuous treats at renowned restaurants. Whenever you get spare time, go to your nearby park or at the riverside. Speak in romantic tone and pick out some happy memories of the past. It will simply create magic for you. Make scope for her to vent out her emotional stories of her life. Sit closer to her and continue rubbing her body, so that she can feel good. Look for the opportunity to stimulate her physically as well as emotionally… if you can do so, you are rest assured of winning half the battle. She is not expected to tell about this incident to anyone; it is because of two separate reasons. Firstly, she would not like to create any gossip amongst her friends and secondly, she would not like to debar her from getting sexual pleasure.
So, be free from hesitation and enjoy the ultimate friendship through making love. Always remember the proverb – “Marriages are made in heaven” and if it is true, you do not need to bother about the consequences. Go and tell your friend!!! She would definitely reciprocate your feelings. It is quite possible that she is also making her mind for you…

Mistakes Friends Make

Are you being a good friend? Do you have friends that you appreciate? Would you like to improve your friendships? Is your loving partner your best friend?
As a Marriage, Family Therapist for 27 years, I helped many people resolve issues with their friends and create healthier friendships. The same principles apply to romantic relationships. Ideally, your loving partner is your best friend.
The following are some mistakes friends make and how to improve the relationship.
1) Mistake: Try to fix the person. Solution: Ask the person if they want your help and the kind of assistance they wish to have. Some examples are to just listen, or tell them what you would do in their situation.
2) Mistake: Be impatient. Solution: Be patient. We all appreciate when others are patient with us.
3) Mistake: Be unforgiving. Solution: Forgive others when they blunder. We all make mistakes.
4) Mistake: Discount or judge the other person’s feelings. Solution: Accept all their feelings and help them express them constructively.
5) Mistake: Take personally what your friend says. Solution: Understand that what people say or do is a reflection of them and not you.
6) Mistake: Be indifferent when they are upset. Solution: Comfort the other person when they are hurting by being compassionate and reassuring, listening, giving them a hug, etc.
7) Mistake: Tell people what to do. Solution: Help them solve their own problems with win-win solutions.
Mistake: Be jealous of their success. Solution: Be happy for them when they experience success and reach their goals.
9) Mistake: Drop them when you are romantically involved. Solution: Continue to connect with your friends even when you are in romantic relationships.
10) Mistake: Withhold your thoughts and feelings. Solution: Tell them your thoughts and feelings in a loving way. Take responsibility for them by beginning your sentences with “I feel” or “I think.”
11) Mistake: Break your agreements Solution: Keep your agreements, or inform them before that you wish to change the agreement.
12) Mistake: Do not feel worthy or deserving of the friendships. Solution: Realize that you deserve loving, supportive friends.
13) Mistake: Take them for granted. Solution: Let them know that they are important to you and you are grateful for their friendship.
14) Mistake: Expect them to help you overcome your loneliness. Solution: When you love and like yourself, you are not dependent on others to fulfill your needs.
15) Mistake: Bombard them with your problems. Solution: Ask them first if they are open to hearing a problem you are having and keep it short and to the point. Then focus on the solution.
16) Mistake: Be their leader or follower. Solution: See each other as two equally powerful people.
17) Mistake: Be too busy for friends. Solution: Set aside quality time for your nurturing, supportive friends.
18) Mistake: Try to make them just like you. Solution: Honor who they are and be aware of how you complement each other.
19) Mistake: Be disrespectful and hurtful. Solution: Respect them and be kind.
20) Mistake: Be willing to take abuse. Solution: Love yourself enough to remove yourself from abusive relationships.
21) Mistake: Expect them to be your therapist. Solution: If you need professional help, seek a therapist.

Since I know the real meaning of friendship, I never want to leave without it.

There was a time. When I thought, that I had more than a hundred of friends. I always have known, that I polarize. There is that group, which seems to hate me, and the other group. The so-called friends. It took quite a long time, till I recognized, that only, I don’t know, four or five people think that they hate me. Although, they didn’t know me at all. And the others ar only in acquaintanceship to me. Nothing more.

At the age of fifteen, at our project week in Carinthia, my first real friendship has started. To a girl. Yeah. Everybody says that this couldn’t work for a long time. Well, we had our sexual contact, we tried to be more, we were young, we were stupid. Then minutes before the split-up, another try. And since that time, more than two years are over. She’s still my best friend. She walked with me through my heartsickness, through all the dark times, through the death of my nephew. She’s always there. And that’s why I love her.

And after I get in contact with that feeling of friendship, I got more and more best friends. I don’t know, at maximum, that’s ten or fifteen people. From different places, with different opinions. And it’s wonderful. But my very first best friend has something like a cult status in my life. She was always there. She walked with me through that dark forest and through all the sunny days. She’s great.

We all change. Everybody’s changing, Keane sang. But we are able to renew our friendship at every time we meet. And that’s why, I love all my friends. It took a long time, three quarters of my age today, till I get in contact. But now, I don’t wana miss a thing friend.

Friendship Never Dies

A friendship like ourswill never die.Even when to heaven you must fly.
I'll cherish your memoryand the good times we shared.I want you to knowjust how much I cared.
You were more like familynot just a good friend.Someone special to meyou were a godsend.
We could talk and we'd laughand yes, argue too.Yet, no matter whatour friendship pulled through.
When your time has comeI'll shed my tearsbut, just for nowI'll hide my fears.
I believe it's the bodynot the soul that ends.So be sure to waitwhen for me God sends.
Meet me over thereon the other sidewhen after here on earthmy body has died.
Then again we'll laughand maybe cry too.Just remember for nowthat I'll always love you.