Tips for Keeping Women's Attention

If you’re dealing with an attractive woman,then you must remember that you’re not the firstguy who has ever been interested in her.In fact, she’s probably approached all the timeby guys, and she probably has a lot of experiencewith guys who want to “get involved” with her.This is one of those funny situations thatworks in kind of a backwards way (not unlike manyother aspects of male/female relationships,actually).If you meet an attractive girl, you can bepretty sure of a few things:1) She gets approached by men, one way or another,all the damn time.2) 99% of the men that she meets and dates wind upfollowing her around like puppies… either fromthe beginning or eventually.3) When a guy acts “too nice - too soon”, she seesthis as a sign of neediness and weakness, andshe’s repelled by it.I realize that this is going to sound like somekind of bizarre Zen self-help B.S., but sometimesyou have to push things away from you gently inorder to bring them to you.And beautiful women fall into this category.At my last couple of Double Your Dating LIVE!Seminars, I asked a simple question:“How do you make someone want something?”Have you ever thought about that concept?Why is it that people WANT things in the firstplace, and how can you actually MAKE someone wantsomething?When you think about the things that YOU want,and then ask yourself WHY you want those things,you’ll begin to realize why this is such aprofound question.Why is it that Coke has dominated the colamarket when we all know that Pepsi wins the tastetests?Why is it that people in Los Angeles buy somany four-wheel drive SUVs?Why is it that some nightclubs keep peopleoutside in line for hours when there’s plenty ofroom inside the club?Well, I obviously can’t go into an in-depthexplanation of why these things are so, but Ithink it’s obvious that:1) Most of the things that people “want” aren’tfor the most logical reasons.2) We humans only “want what we don’t have”… andonce we get what we want, we quickly get bored.3) Even knowing that something is readilyavailable to us makes us lose interest.So why such a long explanation?Why not just tell you when to call her, what tosay, and what tone to use?Because even if you know the exact right wordsto say, and the exact right time to say them, thewoman you’re talking to will still be able to pickup what you’re REALLY thinking if you don’tunderstand how and why women become attracted tomen.Here are a few ways to make a person wantsomething:1) Create a challenge.2) Give her a little, then lean back.3) Give her the gift of missing you.4) Be unpredictable.When you create a challenge, you really ENGAGEa woman’s mind and emotions.Women don’t feel ATTRACTION for men that arepush-over Wuss Bags. Women feel ATTRACTION for menwho are a CHALLENGE.When you give a woman a little bit, then leanback, then you set up a “Hey, I want more of that”situation.If you just keep pouring on the attention andgiving her everything she wants, you’ll becomeuninteresting.When you give a woman the “Gift of missingyou”, you realize that for women, thinking about,missing, and anticipating the next time is ofteneven more powerful than the actual EXPERIENCE of“the next time”.Men often get insecure, and feel that they haveto call and keep an eye on a woman all the time.This is a huge mistake. It says all the wrongthings.When you’re UNPREDICTABLE, you do somethingthat is almost MAGIC… when a man understands howto make a woman feel ATTRACTION, then he doesn’tdo things that are PREDICTABLE, women will tend tothink about him ALL THE TIME.Things that are predictable don’t require muchthought. They’re uninteresting and boring.Things that are UNPREDICTABLE, on the otherhand, require a LOT of thought. Unpredictablethings are FASCINATING to people… especiallywomen.What makes a movie lame?Predictability.What makes a movie great?A well-written story that ISN’T predictable.Predictability and BORING-NESS are the enemiesof ATTRACTION.Here are a few thoughts on the questions youasked:1) If you call her the next day, be cool about it.Don’t try to be too “suave”, and don’t try to setup another date immediately. Call and say, “Hey,what’s up?” Make a little small talk, then hangup. Lean back, and she’ll be thinking about youfor the next several days (if you didn’t act likea dumb-ass the night before, that is).2) If you email, keep it light as well. In thisday and age, I find it natural to email or call.3) Your TONE should be cool, calm, laid back,busy, and upbeat. Never complain about things,whine, or act like you’re in a bad mood and needattention.4) Be very cool about this. Don’t act like youmight want to get married within 90 days, or likeyou’ve met the woman of your dreams. Give her somespace, and the gift of missing you.5) For the first 10 dates or so, don’t see hermore than once or twice a week. Stay busy withyour life, and always have things going on.6) Until you decide that you really like aparticular woman and want to “settle down” withher, or have a long-term relationship, don’t focustoo much energy on the relationship. If you’redating other women, don’t stop. When you focus allof your energy and time on a woman that you’vejust met, it often creeps them out and makes themrun.